As it relates to pelvic health and we are in the business of supporting you in every way we can, we have been privy to so many beautiful and heart-string-pulling stories of infertility and the issues that come with such.
One of the main things we have learned (and humbly, at that) is that there are many myths that society may have on those struggling with infertility. Here, we share a few of our most recent conversations (with discretion, of course) in hopes that it can open the eyes and hearts of anyone willing to listen (or, ahem…read).
Firstly, we heard from a woman who stated, “There is a common, underlying belief that it was my “fault” before any testing was done. People just assumed it would be me. Keep in mind I was healthy and young.”
Secondly, a woman shared that people perceived, “…we didn’t like kids (that’s why we hadn’t had any after so many years.
Thirdly, there was a woman and her husband who were told blatantly, “we could just adopt. Which is a perfectly good option but at the same time...my husband struggled with the thought of not loving a non-biological child as much as his own and that wouldn’t really be fair to anyone.”
Another woman shared that while infertility can be very challenging for some, there is hope in even some of the most severe cases, “I heard all the time that women who have endometriosis are unable to conceive. While it may be more difficult or take longer, it’s not impossible. I was diagnosed with what I was told to be one of the most severe cases of endometriosis my specialist had ever seen (spreading to my internal organs). I was able to conceive twice...both times, I had to have surgery prior to, and was placed on bed rest for the duration of my pregnancies.”
It is this very statement and conversation that led us to mindfully write “never say never” when creating our other recent blog about options when pregnancy doesn’t appear to be possible.
Of course, there are also less personal yet more general myths that have found their way into the beliefs of many, including ,but not limited to:
MYTH: A woman’s menstrual cycle is 28 days. When, the truth is actually that a typical cycle lasts anywhere from 21 to 36 days.
MYTH: A woman can get pregnant on only one day of her cycle. Obviously, anytime during ovulation, but seemingly even outside this window when women have irregular cycles.
MYTH: Stress causes infertility. While it could potentially delay ovulation due to hormones, it doesn’t cause infertility.
Again, these are just a few that we recommend researching and discussing with professionals if this is something you’re curious about! Have you dealt with this? What myths have you had to debunk?